Some People Just Don't Get It

I have not always been the greatest example of humanity.  I still don't think I am necessarily.

In my life I have met people who have seen me at my worst and denied me the possibility of redeeming myself in their sight.  Fair enough sometimes, trust is easily shattered, and hurt is hard to overcome.

I have also seen others at their worst, and I have tried my best to overcome and to forgive their less savoury moments, and to see the potential there in them.  It's what I have always aspired to, to see the best potential in people realised.  I also would like to see my potential realised, a journey I have slowly and haltingly taken over the years.

I have in my time though, met people who seem to be wasting their potential. 

I do feel sad for them and I would like to help them.  But I realise that the only people worth helping are those who are helping themselves, and who show a genuine will to improve their situation.  As for all the others I would only be casting my pearls before swine.

The sad thing is, mainly from my point of view, that such people are sitting there wasting their lives, wasting their potential to make a positive impact in the lives of those around them, and instead they are doing nothing, save for blaming others for the position they are in, for the hurts and indignities they believe they have suffered.  And so it goes, it's never their fault, always someone else's.  And that becomes an excuse.  And nothing changes.

We have all occasionally done the right thing.  We have all on more occasions than that, screwed up royally and profoundly and made twats of ourselves.  My last relationship failed.  I blame myself for that.  I know it was probably a case of two people's issues making an unholy mess, but I am responsible for my failings as a person, not the other party.  They must attend to their house as I must attend to mine. 

So what is not to get here?  We all make mistakes, let's be honest enough to admit them to ourselves and to others.  Blaming other people for your problems is selfish and irresponsible.  Failing to see the good in people and their highest potential is just as bad.

We are not here to blame, judge, or pass the buck...